The Very Inspiring Blogger Award

I meant to get to this post last week but forgot! My friend, Meghan over at Ratnam Residence has nominated Bachs By The Beach for another blogger award! Thanks Meghan!

The Rules:

1.  Display the award logo on your blog.

2.  Link back to the blog of the person who nominated you.

3.  State seven things about yourself.

4. Nominate 7 other bloggers for the award and provide links to their blogs.

First up, Seven Things:

  1. I am a picky eater! This is very unfortunate since Charleston has some amazing seafood. I don’t like seafood (maybe salmon and calamari) and most vegetables. I try new things from time to time but just don’t like them! (sorry babe)
  2. I hate Southern drivers. I thought NY was bad….its WAY worse here. No one can merge, pass, drive the speed limit, etc.
  3. I originally went to college to be a teacher. I thought this was my career path and decided after one teaching class that it wasn’t for me. Although, now I am re thinking that and wished I stuck with it!
  4. I am part Armenian. My maiden name is Apkarian and no one could ever pronounce it.
  5. I get bored with my hair and want to change it but never do. I go back and forth wanting to cut it short and growing it long and just can’t make up my mind!
  6. I am afraid of flying! I always get clammy and can’t seem to calm down. I get nauseous on the decent ALL THE TIME.
  7. I love Christmas! Who doesn’t!? If I had the money, my house would full with decorations! I always feel like I could use more 🙂

Below are links to some great blogs I follow and have nominated for the award!

~CB

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Instead

Society today puts a ton of pressure on us to be the perfect and ideal mold of a mother. The pressure that is put on women to be the perfect mother, to snap back to pre-pregnancy weight and slip into those designer fit jeans, have a perfect and healthy child that sleeps through the night by 3 months, work again as soon as possible, be the perfect housewife, continue to cook extraordinary dinners for the family, etc. is just plain ridiculous bullshit.

Instead of listening to the rants of what we “should be doing” as a new mother how about we applaud ourselves for what we enjoy doing and what we are physically and emotionally able to do.  I remember when I was on maternity leave and some days I was so emotionally exhausted all I could do for the day was take a shower. That’s it. To me, that was my accomplishment that day. If I didn’t get to cross anything off on my to-do list, I didn’t care. As long as I did something small like take a shower, I felt accomplished.

Instead of friends, family, co-workers and neighbors pointing out what their kids, grandkids, nieces, nephews, etc. have done so well and what they think is best, we should concentrate on what WE do best and what works for US. If that means that your baby sleeps better on his/her belly rather than their back, then so be it. If that means having to put your baby in daycare and return to a full-time job in order to support your family and give them the life you have always wanted for them, then so be it. At the end of the day it is about that little miracle of life and what is best for them not what society, websites, and TV shows say we “should do”.

Instead of watching these moms on TV with their perfect hair, perfect bodies, perfect babies and wondering how they do it, realize that it’s never real! We should never compare ourselves to what these “reality” TV moms can do so well because it is fake. I bet when the cameras are turned off they struggle with the everyday demands of life just like us.

To all the future moms-to-be, being a mother and juggling everyday life demands and pressures will be the hardest job of your life. At the end of the day, the reward of your little one smiling up at you makes it all worth it.

To all the moms out there, applaud yourself for all you have done and continue to do on a daily basis for your little peanut. After all, we did create HUMAN LIFE in our womb in just 9 months and THAT in itself is the biggest accomplishment that we should be applauded for.

~CB

My Own Worst Critic

I have been meaning to do a personal post about my self image for a while now. Unfortunately, I am not confident enough to post a full body picture like my friend Kelly @ Baby W Is On The Way, who by the way looks fantastic! Go Kelly! Although I am not brave enough to post a picture right now, perhaps I will post a before and after once I reach my goal weight. 

Have you noticed that no matter how many people tell you “you look great” you still don’t believe it? Whether you have had a baby or not, there will always be something you don’t like about your body.  I step on the scale and I still don’t like where I am at. I never thought I would be this critical of myself. My friends say to give myself a break, I just had a baby 4 months ago but that’s easier said than done.

It is extremely difficult to get to the gym during the week. Most of the time I just want to get home and spend time with the hubby and peanut.  At times I even feel guilty going to the gym after work when Mikayla has been in daycare all day. It’s also hard with Rob traveling so much. I never imagined how childbirth would transform my body and change my self image.  Don’t get me wrong, I knew it would be different and I would need to work hard to get my body back BUT I didn’t know it would have such an impact on the way I feel about myself.

Today I change work on changing how I feel about myself.  Here are my goals to feeling more confident and positive about the body I have now:

Self Image Goals:

  • Say “thank you” when my husband compliments me and really start to believe him
  • Every time I get critical of myself, stop and think about how amazing Mikayla is
  • For every negative thought I have when I look in the mirror, think of 2 positive thoughts

Weight Loss Goals

  • Current weight = 151 lbs. Pre-baby weight = 140 lbs….11lbs to go
  • Gym twice a week. Saturday and/or Sunday and 1 day during the week
  • Attend at least one class at the gym each week. Today I will be going to a 45 minute spin class
  • Continue yoga at home 1-2 days per week
  • Continue walking during my lunch break
  • Improve eating habits and decrease daily calorie intake to 1500 calories

There you have it! What is the one thing you are most critical of? What are your goals for a better self image? If you have had a baby, what advice do you have for getting back in shape?

Would love to hear from you!

~CB