Ferber Method: Nights 2 & 3

This must have work because nights 2 and 3 were MUCH better!

Night 2: woke at 5:30 and fussed for a few minutes. I think she went back to sleep but I am not sure…she could have been awake just hanging out. Up again at 6, had her bottle and back to sleep until 7:15

Night 3 (last night): Didn’t wake up until 6:15! She had her bottle and was up for the day.

I am really hoping this sticks and she doesn’t retract back to waking up. Most people I know say it takes roughly 3 nights and that the first night is the worst. Now I can agree with everyone and say that this method DOES work!

~CB

Ferber Method

Mikayla was cleared yesterday at the doc…no more ear infection! There was a small amount of fluid but nothing concerning. Hopefully it will stay non concerning and not rear it’s ugly head again. We can rule out her ear bothering her and know this is not the reason she is waking up. At this point, it is all a guessing game. I have no clue why she is waking up now. She was for the most part, a good sleeper. She would wake once in the night to eat until she was about 4 1/2 months. After that she was on a good schedule. Sure, there were times when we got off track a little due to the occasional illness and teething, but not for long. She would have no problem going back to her schedule. She was never a paci user after 8 weeks old and did pretty well with soothing herself to sleep.

Now we are at 8 months old and her sleeping is back to being inconsistent. 2-3 nights mornings a week she is up around 4. I usually give her ten minutes then cave and feed her back to sleep. No bueno. Now she is expecting this every morning. The hubby and I mulled it over and decided to try the Ferber method. I figured why not give it a shot and share my experience with other Mom’s out there.

Ferber Method: Night 1

Details: 4:30am she starts the crying and after about 45 minutes we are stumped and don’t know how to proceed. The doctor  nurse (who we don’t like to see but our doc was out of town) said she should soothe herself back to sleep within an hour. UMMM ok…what happens if a full hour goes by? Then what!? Sure enough, 5:30 it is and I can’t take it anymore. I go in to get her and she isn’t moving, eyes are closed,  and she is making little noise. Could this be!? Did she fall asleep!? YESUM! Thank God! I was so afraid all that crying was for nothing. She got herself so worked up she was hiccuping in her sleep for a few minutes but it didn’t seem to bother her.

Result: An hour of crying and she put herself back to sleep. She woke up at 6:45 and was playing in her crib and smiling.

From what I have read, Ferber method can take 3 nights of crying and by the 4th night, she should be sleeping through the night. Babycenter.com has some great tips for this if anyone is interested. We will see how tonight goes and I will blog about it tomorrow. Has anyone tried this method before? Have you had success with it? Have you tried a different method that seemed to work well?

~Coffee Meet Face

 

“Please Go To Sleep” – quick update

Last week I talked about Mikayla retracting from her good sleeping patterns. Luckily she got back into her routine after 4 nights and was sleeping until 6am! WOOT WOOT! Unfortunately, this did not last. Turns out, her ear infection in one ear did not heal completely resulting in another antibiotic. Today is day 3 of the meds but the last 3 nights she has woken anywhere between 3 and 4am. I I give her ibuprofen before bed but it only lasts 8 hours.

I am not sure if she is waking up because of pain or if she is now waking up out of habit. We try not to feed her and rock her back to sleep but this fails every time and we end up giving her a bottle which throws off her schedule for the day.

Mom’s: What would you do in this scenario? Let your baby cry it out and not feed them, or get up and feed them hoping it will pass once they feel better?

HELP! I need some advice!

~CB

Please Go To Sleep

We had an interesting sleeping non sleeping encounter with Mikayla Saturday night. Usually she is a good sleeper. Down between 7 and 7:30 and some nights she falls asleep with her bottle and goes right down, other nights she rolls around in the crib for ten minutes until she falls asleep.  It really varies. She will wake between 5 and 6, take a bottle and go back to sleep for another hour. Saturday into Sunday was a completely different situation and has left me and the hubby stumped as to why.

We heard her crying at 9:30…yes, 9:30 only 2 hours after she went to bed. After a few minutes I went in and she was crying but her eyes were closed. Then she stopped and was fine. This went on for the rest of the night. Every hour she would cry, yell, grunt, etc. for a few minutes but still be asleep. This of course, woke us up every hour. We ended up sleeping in separate rooms for a few hours just to get some sleep. The guest room is next to her room so the hubby went in there first and then I followed. Every time I would start to drift off she would start with the noises! I am a very light sleeper and wake to just about anything. She has a fan in her room to drown out cars and such (we live on the corner and we have a train) and that helps me to sleep as well. Finally she was up for good around 6. I fed her and she went right back to sleep…pretty quickly and slept for 2 more hours!

She is taking antibiotics for an ear infection and is feeling much better. Maybe her ears still hurt and she kept waking up from that? Maybe her top teeth were bothering her? Was she having bad dreams all night? I just don’t know. Luckily last night was much better. We didn’t hear a peep from 7:30 to 6.

Should we nix the monitor so her noises don’t wake us? She is down the hall so I would imagine when she is really awake and hungry we would hear her. I do have this awful fear of someone breaking in her room (her window is on the first floor) and taking her and if the monitor isn’t in there, we wouldn’t hear it. I know…I am paranoid! 

Has anyone else experienced this or have a guess as to why this happened?

~CB

Have a Hobby?

A little bit about me:  I have a Bachelor’s degree in business management and I am a financial analyst for a government contracting company. Not exactly what I thought it would be but it will do for now. I have been doing some thinking and wanted to share with y’all and get your thoughts and feedback. Ever feel like you need a “thing” or a “something” to go to when you need a little me time? Like a hobby or passion for something? I must admit that I do not have a hobby nor anything that I am good at. Ever feel like you have zero talent? Some people are naturally gifted creatively and can take amazing photographs or build things from scratch. My hubby is very talented with woodwork and has his own space in the garage. He builds stuff all the time and it looks great. I wish I had a creative bone to create something of my own. I always see ideas for crafts or housing projects that someone created and wish I could come up with something similar!

I guess a start would be to write out a list of things I would enjoy doing and try to make something out of that list.  Some friends of mine have something they do on the side that they love, such as flipping houses, selling jewelry, making crafts, sewing, etc. I need to get thinking and try to come up with something! Some people might say blogging is a hobby but I am not as avid of a blogger as a lot of people out there.

Here is my list of things I like and things I could be interested in (very random):

  • Jewelry/shoes – what girl doesn’t like this!?
  • Makeup – tried selling Mary Kay once and it was NOT for me.
  • Photography with nature scenes – really need a new camera.
  • House decorating – if I had an unlimited amount of money, my house would look like something out of a magazine. For now, I do a little at a time.
  • Animals – I volunteered at an animal shelter after college and loved it.
  • Gardening – I love flowers! Problem is….I don’t exactly have a “green thumb” hence why I hired a landscaper to do the work.
  • Baking – I have one of these bad boys and its awesome! I have only used it a few times. I am afraid to experiment with new recipes because I have no will power and will eat everything I bake!
  • The Beach – not sure what could come of this one…lol.

The biggest obstacle is trying find the time! I work full-time and then come home to a 7 month old. So this would be something I could do after she goes to bed and/or on the weekends. It’s hard to do much during the week since the hubby travels and his schedule varies each week.

There you have it! Any suggestions or ides for me? Do you have a hobby or something you enjoy doing and are good at? I would love to hear your thoughts!

Have a Happy 4th of July!

~CB

Baby On A Plane

Waiting in line to board, finally get on the plane but have to deal with the long ass line of slow people taking their sweet ass time to put their belongings in the overhead bin, finally squeeze into the seat by the window, look up and there it is…..a Mom walking down the aisle headed toward my seat wearing a baby Bjorn containing a drooling, crying, spitting baby! AHHHH a baby on a plane is the worst! Yes, I will admit, those were my thoughts as I am sure everyone experiences this agony at least once in their life.

The irony of it all is that this will be ME next weekend!!! I have a new-found respect for parents that travel with kids. You better believe that no one on that plane feels more agony than the parents who are trying their best not to disturb the other passengers. When we first booked our trip I worried about what other people will be thinking the second we step onto that plane with her. But you know what…I don’t give a F$#@! LOL. And to be honest, how can anyone not smile at this:

Have you ever traveled with a baby or toddler? How did it go? Did you have anyone rudely ask you to “keep it down”? I will be doing a post next week about what I will be packing for M!

~CB

A Day @ The Bach Household When Dad Travels

Rob’s job requires quite a bit of travel. According to his job description, 50% to be exact. Usually this means he travels every week for 1-2 nights at a time, sometimes 3 nights is required depending on where he is going. I feel spoiled when he gets a week off but try not to get used to it since the busy summer season is quickly approaching. When we talked about starting a family I knew that having a baby and a dog to take care of by myself when he traveled would be hard. Of course, I didn’t have a full understanding of what “hard” meant until I was put in the situation. Of course in the beginning when she was younger it was much more difficult. He started traveling again when she was around 7 weeks old. It has gotten easier but is still a challenge as I really don’t have time to make dinner for myself or just relax.  Here is a peak into our typical day and night when Rob travels:

4:30 – 5:30 – M usually wakes up during this time for a bottle and then goes back to sleep

5:30 – Alarm goes off, hit the snooze button at least three times (I shower at night to save 20 minutes in the AM)

5:50 – 6:30 – Get up and get ready for the day, feed Sadie, throw the ball around in the backyard for Sadie. Getting a fence was the best idea!

6:30 – 6:45 – Wake M and get her dressed (her sleep times vary right now, if she has a night where she gets up at 2ish, I will feed her around this time)

7:00 – 7:15 – Load up the car and head to daycare

7:30/ 8:00 – 4:00 /4:30 – At work

4:15 – 4:45 – Pick up M at daycare

5:00 – 6:00 – Feed M if she is due for a feeding, walk Sadie or throw the ball in the backyard, feed Sadie, wash bottles, do laundry (if needed), M takes a 30 minute power nap

6:00 – 7:00 – Eat dinner (usually something quick like a lean cuisine), feed M oatmeal and a veggie, give M a bath and get ready for bed, tummy time

7:00 – 7:30 – Feed M her final bottle for the night and put her down for bed

7:30 – 8:30 – Prepare bottles for the following day, take a shower

8:30 – 9:00 – Throw the ball for Sadie one last time, talk to hubby, read and go to bed!

There you have it! That is a typical day for the Bach family! I must say if it is raining it really sucks to play with Sadie outside!

What is your routine like? Do you ever find yourself completely off some days and find it hard to get back to your routine?

~CB

 

Instead

Society today puts a ton of pressure on us to be the perfect and ideal mold of a mother. The pressure that is put on women to be the perfect mother, to snap back to pre-pregnancy weight and slip into those designer fit jeans, have a perfect and healthy child that sleeps through the night by 3 months, work again as soon as possible, be the perfect housewife, continue to cook extraordinary dinners for the family, etc. is just plain ridiculous bullshit.

Instead of listening to the rants of what we “should be doing” as a new mother how about we applaud ourselves for what we enjoy doing and what we are physically and emotionally able to do.  I remember when I was on maternity leave and some days I was so emotionally exhausted all I could do for the day was take a shower. That’s it. To me, that was my accomplishment that day. If I didn’t get to cross anything off on my to-do list, I didn’t care. As long as I did something small like take a shower, I felt accomplished.

Instead of friends, family, co-workers and neighbors pointing out what their kids, grandkids, nieces, nephews, etc. have done so well and what they think is best, we should concentrate on what WE do best and what works for US. If that means that your baby sleeps better on his/her belly rather than their back, then so be it. If that means having to put your baby in daycare and return to a full-time job in order to support your family and give them the life you have always wanted for them, then so be it. At the end of the day it is about that little miracle of life and what is best for them not what society, websites, and TV shows say we “should do”.

Instead of watching these moms on TV with their perfect hair, perfect bodies, perfect babies and wondering how they do it, realize that it’s never real! We should never compare ourselves to what these “reality” TV moms can do so well because it is fake. I bet when the cameras are turned off they struggle with the everyday demands of life just like us.

To all the future moms-to-be, being a mother and juggling everyday life demands and pressures will be the hardest job of your life. At the end of the day, the reward of your little one smiling up at you makes it all worth it.

To all the moms out there, applaud yourself for all you have done and continue to do on a daily basis for your little peanut. After all, we did create HUMAN LIFE in our womb in just 9 months and THAT in itself is the biggest accomplishment that we should be applauded for.

~CB

Overwhelmed Much?

Happy March 1st! Can’t believe it is March already!

Rob’s job requires quite a bit of travel. When he was offered his position in 2010 we were faced with the difficult decision of moving South away from family and accepting the travel requirement of the position. At the time, I didn’t really think about how it would be with a baby when he travels. Let’s just say I am still adjusting! A typical day in the Bach household when he travels goes something like this:

  • 5:30 wake and get ready for work, eat breakfast if I have time, throw the ball for Sadie in the backyard and feed her. Get peanut up and ready for daycare and feed her. Morning time always involves a monster poop and/or spit up so a diaper change and/or outfit change is required. Keep her entertained while I finish getting ready for work (some mornings she will fall asleep but others she sits in her bouncy seat). After getting ready I will pack up peanut and load the car.
  • Out the door between 7 and 7:15 (days he doesn’t travel I leave between 7:15 and 7:30 but I try to leave a little earlier the days he travels so I can pick her up earlier) to get to daycare then off to work.
  • Leave work and pick up M from daycare between 4:30 and 5:00, get home and feed Mikayla, run the dog in the backyard, feed the dog, wash bottles, prepare bottles for the next day, “clean” the kitchen, bath time for Mikayla, last feeding of the night (usually around 7-7:30), Mikayla to bed, Mom eats dinner and finishes things that may not have gotten done like washing bottles and/or preparing bottles, put a load of laundry in, play with Sadie one more time, take a shower (I shower the night before work),  pick out an outfit for the next day, and FINALLY B E D!

Whoa! Stress much? Yes. It is stressful and at times overwhelming. Some nights she will be fussy and want to be held rather than hanging out in the swing or bouncy seat. Sometimes she will take a 15 minute cat nap and other times she won’t nap making her very tired. The dog tends to stress me out too! We have recently gotten a fence for her but she wants me to go outside and throw the ball……every ten minutes! If Mikayla needs to eat I obviously can’t get to the dog right away. She is still adjusting to being number 2 and I feel guilty at times because she is in the house all day for 9-10 hours and wants to run. Sometimes I just can’t get to her right away and I am learning to deal with that.

For whatever reason my drive to daycare in the afternoon becomes daunting! Don’t get me wrong, I am so excited to see my peanut but all I can think/worry about is how much I have to do when I get home, how the dog will react, if M will be fussy or not, if I can find time to eat something, etc, etc. In addition to that I feel guilty putting her down to do something because I haven’t seen her all day and want to spend time with her. Right now I don’t have the confidence to say “I can handle it”. I hope with time and her getting older it will become easier for me. Even with my stress I wouldn’t trade it for anything because Rob loves his job and is making leaps and bounds in his new role and has been able to provide wonderful things for our family so it is all worth it in the end!

Do you have times when you feel overwhelmed? How do you get through it and get to the point when you can say… “I got this”?

Thanks for reading! C